Your existence in this world means nothing if you can’t reconcile with yourself. Making your surroundings worth living starts with finding the peace within you.
Instead of blaming yourself and others for your failures, why not take the first step to make it right? Work on your looks, thoughts, and most importantly, feelings.
Ask yourself what is making it so hard for you to make peace with yourself and how to overcome it. Here are a few tips.
10 Reasons Why You Are Not At Peace With Yourself:
1). Limiting Yourself To A Comfort Zone:
The only way to realize how amazing your surrounding can be is by exploring it. The point is, it is hard to appreciate what the world has to offer if you are afraid of risks. Ask yourself, why do people camp or hike? What is the benefit of outdoor activities?
No matter how safe you want to be, spending most of your life indoors will limit your thinking to what is before you. On the other hand, going out more often, will widen your thinking and make you appreciate what you’ve been missing.
So, get outside visit places or try switching careers. By doing this, there are high chances you will come across a lot of exciting things you did not know existed.
If being wealthy is one of your goals, you need to learn to take risks that are within reason. There is not a single successful person on this planet who has not taken some sort of risk in their life.
Some risks were big and other risks were small. The point is they all took risks in order to get what they wanted in life. This is also a great way to grow internally and learn to love yourself more.
What you’ll find is that as you get out of your comfort zone you will begin to have a massive amount of resistance. This is totally normal once you begin to do the tasks or activities over and over and over again.
In time that feeling will fade and be replaced with you feeling more confident about yourself and who you are.
2). Eating Unhealthily:
You may be too busy to cook for yourself. If your house is far away from work, you’ll likely buy and eat processed foods. A lot of studies have already proven how dangerous junk foods can be.
Most of these foods contain a lot of carbs and sugar which, according to research findings can compromise your physical and emotional health.
Avoid these foods as much as possible. Instead, focus on healthy foods such as lean proteins, fruits, healthy fats, and others that will level-up your energy.
Foods are so important. We need to be so mindful of what we put inside our bodies because our bodies are extremely important. You need to treat yourself like you would if you were a multi-millionaire.
Very successful people are very mindful of the things they put inside their bodies and what enters their minds. You need to be extremely careful about what you eat. If you eat like junk you’re gonna feel like junk, crap, tired, sluggish.
If you want to have more respect for yourself start with being very mindful of what you put inside your body. Unless you don’t care about your weight or what you look like, but I’m sure you do because most people do.
3). Focussing On Past Failures:
Your past mistakes might be haunting you all the time. You can’t stop thinking about what you did wrong and the worst part; they stress you out. Keep in mind; your past is gone, and it is your present that matters.
So, accept that you made mistakes in the past, let go and figure out how to avoid them in the future. If it was someone’s mistake that ruined you, don’t take it personally. Besides, what is the reason for holding to something that denies you happiness?
4). Blaming Yourself Every Time:
You might have been working hard to be someone or to achieve something without much success. For that reason, you blame yourself most of the time which is not okay.
By blaming yourself, you only encourage stress which will without a doubt ruin your performance after some time.
Remember, even the most successful people on earth had to fail several times to figure out what they can and cannot achieve.
After this, they came up with new goals, started afresh, and became successful. So, why blame yourself for not hitting your set target? Instead of blaming yourself, focus on what is before you such as your health, family, and more.
5). Working So Hard To Become Perfect:
No one is perfect and that includes the most successful people on the planet. Working hard to achieve perfection is not different from encouraging failure.
It not only denies you happiness but prevents you from realizing the opportunity before you. For instance, if you are good at figuring out solutions to math problems and not literature, you won’t be making your life much better by trying to become one of the greatest poets or authors around the world.
Point being, if you can’t appreciate and nurture what you are good at, your life will be full of disappointments. Find out what you can achieve with much ease and pursue it. Also, learn to appreciate what your loved ones or friends are good at.
6). Not Exercising:
You can’t find peace within you if you are ever sick. Lack of exercise has been linked to several complications that include, high blood pressure, overweight, heart complications, diabetes, cancers, and more.
If you don’t engage in any physical activity, there is a high chance that you will become an overweight person which is never healthy in most cases.
You don’t have to engage in vigorous activities or go to a fitness center. All you need to do is, put your body at work. You can try other fun-filled activities such as kayaking, rock climbing, cycling, swimming, and more.
I would personally exercise for 20 to 30 minutes every single day. Whether that is walking around the block with your dog, cycling inside the house, lifting weights, jogging whatever. Just make sure that you are active and burning at least 300 calories a day or more.
7). Working So Hard:
Health experts consider working too hard without giving yourself a break is unproductive. Work itself is depressing and denies your peace of mind if you hate what you do, which most people in the world do. Why not take a break? Besides, are you not working to have a happier life? (hopefully, you are)
If you are a workaholic, you must consider creating time to enjoy yourself. You can take some breaks, visit places or do something fun.
It doesn’t have to be a whole month or week. Taking a break one or two days per week to spend time with friends, watch movies or take your girl/guy on a date is more than enough.
8). Caring About What Others Think Of You:
No matter how successful or good you are, some people will just hate the fact that you are who you are. More often many of those who hate you are never related to you in any way and even if they were your relatives, they might not be in a position to influence your life.
Caring about what others think about you will do nothing more than deny you peace of mind. So, focus on what adds value to your life such as your family, relatives, and close friends.
9). Not Having Time For Yourself:
You can’t create time for others if you don’t even have the time for yourself. Thinking about others more often will deny you a chance to have fun or develop yourself.
So, stop and think about your life once in a while. Remember, you can’t save every life on the planet, especially if you can’t save yours.
Find a peaceful and quiet place, calm down, meditate, and think about your life. Set goals and come up with a plan on how to make them work.
Finding time for yourself will not only help you make peace with yourself but also make it possible for you to help others without much stress.
10). Fearing That You Will Fail:
Challenges can be time-consuming and demotivating. In most cases, you will have trouble balancing work and personal life.
The good news is, hardships are never meant to last. Just change the way you do things. Aim high and try working harder than you are used to. Last but not least, have faith. Come out of pessimism and be positive.
Remind yourself that nothing is meant to last forever. Challenging times will come to pass, and you will achieve your dreams no matter how hard it seems if you NEVER quit.
- Prioritize what you can control
- Don’t take everything personally
- Forgive yourself for your past
- Avoid negative thinking such as those on reality TV
The Bottom Line:
Finding peace within yourself makes achieving a happier and healthy life much easier. It doesnât matter how hard it seems. Nothing is impossible provided you take the right steps to achieve it.
You might not have the job now, or you might be struggling to balance work with family. Never forget, even the most treasured scientists on the planet had to fail several times to get us where we are today.
One thing that made them successful is, accepting that life has challenges and the only way to overcome them is, to make peace with oneself.
So, don’t torture yourself, be patient, and most importantly, focus on implementing the tips mentioned in this article.
What have you done to be more at peace with yourself? Leave your comment below, I’d love to know what the number 1 thing that has worked for you!