Today we will be going over “How To Deal With Stress In A Relationship”. Being social creatures, seeking out for relationships in human beings comes as an instinct. Ideally, relationships are meant to make us stronger, feel safe, appreciated, supported while expressing freedom.
However, in most cases, this utopian experience never materializes. Like anything else in life, relationships are also faced with a myriad of challenges. One of the common challenges in many relationships is coping with stress.
At times stress can be beneficial to a relationship by producing a boost that provides the drive and energy to help you go through challenging situations.
However, severe or rather chronic levels of stress in a relationship can have devastating effects in a relationship including divorce or break-up.
However, by finding positive and healthy ways to manage your stress, you can avoid the above consequences. Additionally, proper stress management is key to defining your relationship. Let’s delve in and get started.
How To Deal With Stress In A Relationship – 10 Tips
1). Determine The Source Of Your Relationship Stress:
The first step in managing your stress is to determine its source. In most cases, however, the stress in relationships is not caused by the external factors that everyday life brings about, but rather on how you respond to life`s daily events.
This means that stress is not brought by, say, running out of household commodities, but rather may stem when you feel disappointed or hurt.
To cope with relationship stress you need to learn how to stop it before it happens. You can determine this by understanding how you react under duress.
For instance, do you often give your partner a cold shoulder? Do you often clench your teeth? Or maybe simply feel out of control?
By learning some of these signs, you`re able to create boundaries, and appropriate measures to mitigate against the risk of such stress before it happens.
2). Accepting Your Feelings:
While dealing with stress is not easy, you should understand that it`s part of life. Unfortunately, even the partner that has always seemed to be the anchor of your relationship will eventually come to a point in life where they get stressed and this is completely normal since we`re experience life in a physical body, we are spiritual beings, don’t forget that.
When faced with such a situation, do not live in denial or rather suppress your feelings. Seek mental and emotional resources to get you through this problem as soon as possible.
3. Open Lines Of Communication:
Stress is often accompanied by a communication breakdown. However, silence is a withdrawal sign and often occurs when one partner is either anxious or upset.
To avoid this retreating experience with your partner, health experts recommend that you approach your partner and make an inquiry. By doing this you not only open the lines of communication between the two of you but also make your partner feel more supported.
Talking has been such a huge thing in my relationship. Why keep things in? Communicate and get it off your shoulders. Maybe he or she won’t understand right off the bat, but at least you get it out in the open and not carrying it inside anymore and being all irritated by it.
Talking is a miracle healer. It’s like therapy in a way, and when you can learn to express yourself the correct way, and more often, you will heal quicker and see your relationship heal as well.
4). Learn To Control Your Emotions:
Research indicates that severe forms of relationship stress can cloud our judgment. Similarly, a partner or couple riding on emotions can be judgmental and often make an irrational decision.
Therefore, in case you`re high on stress, it`s recommended that you try taking a moment to pause and ask yourself whether you`re dealing with the situation at hand in the right way, no matter what the situation is.
While experts agree that having an emotional reaction during stress is crucial, it`s more important that you learn how to control your emotional reaction and make sure it does not supersede the most logical action of dealing with stress.
5). Avoid Criticism And Blame:
A relationship is akin to a team. For your relationship to work out, you need to both workout as a team, support each other, and should not be looking to push one another down.
Blaming and criticizing one another is one way to develop resentment and stress in a relationship. It can be the perfect recipe for disastrous matrimony.
To avoid such a scene, it`s always recommended that you try to avoid criticizing or blaming your partner. Remember the law of Cause And Effect. You never need to get even with people, the law takes care of itself. Always be kind and understand even if they are at fault.
This can be a hard thing to do, but if you practice it, and always show kindness and not bitterness it is such a fast healer. Like attracts like. And love is so much stronger than blame and criticizing someone. It’s like the Golden Rule. Treat others as you wanted to be treated. (Napoleon Hill Book Law Of Success, read it, it will change everything for you).
6). Make Time For Each Other:
One of the most important aspects of any successful relationship is spending time together. Many relationships are under stress because the partners have been too busy for each other.
To avoid such strain in your relationship, you can initiate a session where you can both spend quality time together.
It`s during this time that you can then explore the basics of your relationship, listen to each other, and know-how they`re feeling. Finally, you can also get to know each other a little better.
7). Compassion And Tolerance:
To effectively manage relationship stress in your relationship, you must first learn to appreciate and accept the diversified cultures and norms of your partner.
Similarly, you must understand that your partner comes from a different background from yours and they react differently to issues.
For instance, women react to stress differently from men. Also, in the same group, you might find that some go silent while others explode. Others zone out while others become food junkies.
The journey to managing your relationship stress starts with understanding that your partner is affected by certain issues, reacts differently to you, and your way of dealing with stress is not always right.
8). Find Ways To Dissipate Stress:
If you know that you`re under stress, you can find ways to dispel this feeling rather than suppressing it or venting it on your partner.
Exercise, in particular, can be a perfect remedy in dispelling the excess toxicity. Also, you can engage in other forms of activities such as taking a walk after a heated argument, listening to calming music, taking yoga, or meditating.
I enjoy listening to brain waves like alpha waves and close my eyes and control my breathing. It makes such a huge difference and I noticed that I feel better and that my head is more clear because I have pulled away from the moment and managing my inner state which is the key to all hope and success.
9). Have A Support Group:
Like it or not, at times your partner will not always offer solutions to your relationship issues. Probably, they are worked up as you are. And therefore you need to keep a social network of friends to support you through such a trying period. Support groups can provide you with a solution to your issue.
Just look them up online and you can join them for free. Like I said talking is a huge healer and if your spouse is not supportive right now, that’s ok, just find someone to talk to to get it off your chest and out of your mind. You will feel so much better when you do, and you will notice that things will get better easier than if you don’t.
10). Be Optimistic:
If you`ve encountered stress before, you know that it has a tendency of causing pessimism in a relationship. This is quite understandable and is true especially for new couples.
However, optimism in a relationship surpasses all those feelings, even if your relationship is in the storm of stress and other marital issues.
Relationship experts agree that we can never have control over what happens in a relationship. In our case, stress is unavoidable and a reality in all relationships.
However, relationship stress does not need to be overwhelming and detrimental. The key to managing your stress is learning how to identify the causes, how it affects your relationship and learning ways of minimizing the risks of stress.
What have you done to manage your stress in a relationship? Let me know below, I would love to learn what has been working for you!
Just remember more than anything, to communicate your issues either with your partner or someone else. Don’t keep it bubbled inside, that has massive negative side effects subconsciously. Get it out and feel relieved.