7 Tips On How To Gain Confidence And Self-Esteem!

How To Gain Confidence And Self-Esteem

One of the biggest threats to your success is your level of confidence and self-esteem. Learning how to gain confidence and self-esteem is easier than most people know. This is something that many people struggle with, even big-time celebrities who should be full of self-confidence.

The vast majority of confidence issues stem from a lack of love for oneself. When we cannot love ourselves, every mistake, no matter how minor, causes us to sink deeper into self-loathing.

When confidence and self-esteem levels soar, there is nothing that can stop you from reaching your desired destination in life. You need to remember that you are not you. Your body is simply an instrument housing the real you!

The real you has no limits, you can literally do anything you want because you always have been and always will be. You just don’t remember. You are God’s greatest creation on this planet, there is not a single person like you.

Whatever you think your not and you would like to be, you already are. You just need to learn to unleash it from within and not let all the stuff on the outside get you bogged down. When I finally understood who I REALLY was I felt like a new person.

I did not have to worry anymore about all the LABELS that society put on me, because of this or that or whatever other bullshit stories they wanted to give me.

I finally internalized on an emotional level that I am a Spiritual Being with no limits whatsoever. If I can imagine it…………… I can do it. When I understood this simple yet POWERFUL concept that’s when MY WHOLE LIFE CHANGED FOR THE BETTER.

You are freaking amazing, so don’t let anyone tell you you’re not good enough EVER. Shut ’em down and let your light shine in the world. You deserve the best, you can have the best, and YOU ARE THE BEST. Now let’s delve in and have you learn how to gain confidence and self-esteem fast.

How To Gain Confidence And Self-Esteem:

1). Daily Visualizations Can Overhaul Your Self-Esteem:

Most people are not fully aware of the power visualization has on their life. A good example of this power is a person watching a movie. During the movie, the characters become real to the person watching. This is why a person cries during emotional moments in the movie. Though they know the characters are not real, they feel real to them.

This is all subconscious reactions. Your subconscious cannot tell the difference between what is real and what is imagined. So whatever you get emotionally involved with over and over again will manifest in your life in one form or another.

Can you remember a time where you felt fully confident? If not, you can create this visual image. Think about the way you looked, the way you felt, and every detail of what was occurring, down to the most minute.

When you get this picture in your mind in crisp detail, focus on it, and press your index finger and thumb together to anchor this visual image. Do this a few different times while focusing on your visual image each day. You will quickly find the feelings of your confidence and self-worth growing.

2). Thought Awareness Is An Important Step Towards Confidence:

The constant barrage of the negative talk we give ourselves can cause our self-esteem to plummet. Putting yourself down, being overly critical about mistakes you make and doubts about your ability can all take their toll on your confidence levels. Unfortunately, most people do this to themselves so often they do not even realize it.

I did this for years. School told me I was not good enough, that I couldn’t do this or do that. I had ADD, ADHD, CONTROL FREAK, OCD ECT., all sorts of crap just programmed into my mind over and over and over again until I finally started to have it become a part of my life, and it showed up in everything I did.

Once I understood my thoughts and the impact it has in my life and who I really I was, that all changed, and it changed fast. I’m talking within 90 days being a whole new person fast.

How To Gain Confidence And Self-Esteem

It was crazy and still is to this day. But that’s because I changed my beliefs and I monitor my inner talk all day. Screw people that THINK I’m less than them or I cant do specific things. Their thoughts have no impact on my life PERIOD. That’s how you need to think DAILY. Took me 90 days to get into that habit of thinking correctly and it really made all the difference.

Through thought awareness, you write down the negative thoughts that go through your mind. You can call this your stress diary if you like. Writing down all of the negative thoughts you have about yourself can be very revealing. Once you are aware of the thoughts you are feeling about yourself, you can begin to manage them more effectively.

3). Understand The Fallacy Of Your Negative Thoughts:

Once you have revealed the thoughts that are bombarding your mind and speaking to your subconscious, you can begin to confront them one by one.

To get started on this process, simply review the notes you have made about your negative thoughts. Write down the areas you seem to have the most trouble with, such as feelings of inadequacy.

Next, confront each one individually with the goal of proving it false. Ask yourself questions about each one and refute them. If you cannot look at them objectively, imagine you are a friend looking at these thoughts.

It is your job to refute them for your friend so you can give them clear advice. By challenging each thought, you can learn if they are based on truths or are false. Those who have some merit of truth can be worked on and those that are erroneous can be eradicated.

4). Loving Self-Meditation Places You Into The Care Of Your Heart:

Meditation is one of the keys to increasing self-esteem and confidence and it can be done in different ways. Loving self-meditation is one of the easiest and most effective.

As with any meditation, it takes finding a quiet spot to sit and focusing on the breaths you take. As you begin to relax, focus on a visual image of yourself, and place this image in your heart.

As you intently focus on the image of yourself in your heart, gently say, “I release myself fully from all self-doubt so that I can be happy and all things will work towards my good.”

As you continue to say this phrase, fill your heart with love and protection for yourself. This feeling of complete acceptance and love for yourself should soon begin to wash over you. Focus on this feeling as you continue to relax and then come out of your meditation session.

5). Focus On The Positive – Eliminate The Negative:

In your journey towards gaining confidence and self-esteem, it is time to embrace positivity in your life in every area. The negative thoughts that have been holding you back are keeping you, prisoner.

You are not born with self-esteem, you must create it through understanding and awareness. This can only be done by overhauling your stinkin’ thinking and beginning to focus on the very best attributes you have.

List the things you feel are good attributes of yourself. This list should be focused on and read daily until you can begin to feel a rise in your confidence levels. Repeating these positive attributes in front of a mirror each day is powerful!

How To Gain Confidence And Self-Esteem

6). Positive Affirmations Help You Love Yourself:

Science has proven whatever we tell our subconscious mind the most, this it will believe. Unfortunately, most of us end up filling our minds with negativity that gets replayed over and over.

Positive daily affirmations can allow you to become confident in yourself by flooding your subconscious mind with thoughts of love and acceptance of yourself.

Use these to help you get started:

  • I am beautiful inside and out. 
  •  I am powerful.
  • I can do anything.
  • I love and accept myself unconditionally.
  • I am well-loved and highly respected. 

7). Increase Your Confidence By Simply Saying Thank You:

How often do you shrug off compliments and try to refute them? Your friend says you look beautiful and you immediately talk about your bad hair day.

This is one of the most self-deprecating behaviors you can have. Instead of accepting the compliment, you not only refute it but place a negative reinforcement in your subconscious mind.

When someone compliments you, instead of trying to refute it or turn it negative, graciously accept it and say thank you. This reinforces the positive and builds your self-worth. This may be difficult at first, but it can dramatically change the way you perceive yourself through the eyes of others.


Allow these tips to help you begin to love and accept every part of you, flaws and all. Through this amazing transformation journey, you will begin to experience increased confidence and self-esteem like never before.

Stop blocking your progression to success and start giving yourself credit for how far you have come. As your self-esteem and confidence rise, nothing will be able to hold you back from creating your desired destiny.

Was this article helpful to you? Did it REALLY wake you up and have you come to a realization how AMAZING you actually are. If it did please let me know below, and let me know what else I can help you with. Life is about keeping our internal game working flawlessly. I hope that this article added to that for you today.


8 thoughts on “7 Tips On How To Gain Confidence And Self-Esteem!”

    • Hi Mohammed,

      Glad you enjoyed the read, we have much more to come to help you in all areas of your life. Thanks for stopping by and Happy 4th 🙂



  1. These are very good suggestions how we can improve our self-confidence, I have learned something that works for me is by helping other people. This always gives me a good feeling inside, and so I feel more confident that I am a good person

    Thank you for sharing


    • Hi Jeff,

      I love that, helping others really is a huge confidence builder. It makes you feel good, happy, and on top of the world. And it always comes back to you in one way or another through the law of attraction.



  2. Thank you very much for writing this very comprehensive article.
    I have learned a lot from it and agree wholeheartedly with the
    7 points you have made.
    I hope many others find it and get as much benefit as I did.

    • Hi Alyse,

      Thank you so much for that. And you too! Keep going strong this year, and wishing you MASSIVE SUCCESS. I believe in you!




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