In this article, we will go over “10 Ways On How To Stop Being Shy And Quiet.” Social anxiety is an extremely prevalent disorder among people of all ages and genders.
With currently over fifteen million people suffering from it, if you suffer, you are not alone. This can be very tolling to the people who suffer, both socially and personally.
There are a lot of things that cause people to be shy, and it is a big obstacle when trying to find work or go to school, or even just staying healthy.
Business interviews, participating in class, and making friends are all very difficult things to do when you suffer from this ailment. However, it is not hopeless there are many things you can do to try to improve your ability to interact sociably.
It isn’t easy, and it wonât happen right away, but you should never give up on yourself. Here are 10 tips on how to stop being shy and quiet.
10 Ways On How To Stop Being Shy And Quiet:
1). Increasing Confidence:
I know this seems obvious, however, it doesn’t just mean to talk more or with more power or belief in yourself. It means to have self-confidence, try to believe in whatever you are doing, and understand why you are doing it. This will make you feel as if everything you do and say has a purpose and a meaning, making it easier to speak your mind.
You also need to come from a place of understanding that you are God’s child and that you were wonderful. This will help you to be able to accomplish the tasks that need to be accomplished.
Now if you don’t believe in a God or a higher power than understand that you are the power itself. Nothing is created or destroyed everything just IS. So act the part and realize how magnificent and amazing you are.
2). Visualizing Daily:
Try to imagine yourself having a good and effective conversation with a person who you might encounter that day.
Have this scenario be clean, with no embarrassments or stutters, just you clearly articulating what you want to say. Then try to think of this encounter when you talk to someone that day, and act just how you did then.
When you visualize it makes such a difference in your subconscious mind. If you do it often enough you will actually begin to act that way naturally and without effort.
We actually visualize all the time when you visualize it makes such a difference in your subconscious mind. If you do it often enough you will actually begin to act that way naturally and without effort.
You will notice that you become less shy and less quiet over time. Be patient in the process it takes about 30 to 90 days to ingrain a new habit.
3). Change Your Thinking:
This comes from visualizing daily. Tell yourself that what you imagined can happen. You can have this conversation, nothing will happen and it can be normal.
Use the skills you attained from trying to increase your confidence to be more effective in changing your thinking. Stop thinking everything will fail, and focus on succeeding.
The best way to change your thinking is to think from the inside out. Don’t let your past experiences determine your thinking process. You need to think from a place of understanding, that your magnificent and that all is possible for you.
When I understood who I really was then my thinking began to change more and more. I began to be excited about learning about myself and that I really have no limits.
When you get to that point that’s really where your desire to develop yourself even better grows so strong. So think from the inside out. Don’t let the past dictate how you feel or how you’re going to act or what your future is going to be like.
The correct way of thinking is always from the inside out. But I promise you you’re in the habit of doing it from the outside in. And that’s why you’re shy and quiet.
Learn to control your thoughts throughout the day. Be patient with this it’s going to take some time. But anytime you find yourself feeling shy and quiet ask yourself the following. “what am I thinking and feeling right now?”
That will allow you to tap into the moment of now and adjust your internal process. If you do this often enough you will change your habits subconsciously and you will begin to clear yourself with a new personality.
4. Mimic Others:
If you start freaking out mid-conversation and you feel as though you are going to clam up because you don’t know how to interact with them.
Try to mimic their posture, movements, and tone. It will make it seem not only as if you are understanding what they are saying, but also that you are still calm and enjoying what they are saying.
5). Get Into Uncomfortable Situations:
I know you’ve probably heard these a thousand times, “face your fears” “put yourself out there”. However, this is an effective way to overcome it.
You condition yourself, in a way, to be comfortable in these situations. You also learn how you should start approaching people after enough practice.
You should always focus on trying to be uncomfortable. That is where growth happens the most. A lot of people don’t like change and hate that feeling, I’m one of them. But with the understanding that that’s the only way you’ll grow it must be done.
6). Make Yourself Noticeable:
One of the hardest things about overcoming your social anxiety is initiating conversations with new people. This can be avoided if you make yourself noticeable so other people will come to talk to you.
From expressing your talents to wearing clothes that can start conversations such as book or band tees, this will help other people approach you.
This can be scary at first, but eventually, you will become more comfortable with people coming up to talk to you. You may eventually begin to showcase your abilities such as art or singing, which will also increase your confidence.
7). Learn About Yourself:
Understanding why you have the thoughts and feel the way you do is one of the most important parts of overcoming your shyness. If you can try to grasp what makes you anxious in these situations, you can try to use the previous skills to change this thinking.
The reason you have thoughts like this and feel the way you feel, it’s because of conditioning on a subconscious level. It could’ve been things that your parents said about you or that you’re just not sure of yourself.
Understand that it’s all just like software in your subconscious mind that needs to be replaced. And the best way to replace that software with newer software a.k.a. “I’m no longer shy and quiet”, is by visualizing and doing affirmations.
8). Fake It Until You Make It:
This might seem counterintuitive, but if you pretend you know what you’re doing people will often believe it. This will make it appear that you are calm and in control of the situation, which will be beneficial in making yourself more comfortable in these situations.
Just act out what you visualized your self doing, and eventually, those will be your normal actions.
9). Watch Who You Interact With:
There are a lot of people who you could potentially talk to, on the subway in class, etc., however not all of them will want to talk to you.
One bad interaction can make everything you worked towards fall apart, and you will be back to square one.
Try to look out for their facial expressions and tone while talking to them, because everyone will not be as nice as you want and will make your anxiety worse (if you let it).
This isn’t your fault, some people just have bad days or don’t like strangers, and you should try your best to avoid confronting people who look angry or annoyed.
This is the most important of all. Try to make a change, have a want to overcome your fears. If you don’t try to do it, you won’t be successful in doing it.
You must use the skills whenever you can, but don’t overburden yourself with it. Find a balance, and keep working towards your goal until you are finally free from your social anxiety.
This is not a magical list on how to cure all your fears, it is a small set of things you can do to change what you think about yourself and how you will interact.
By doing these things every day, you can slowly improve and be more comfortable in your skin until you can publicly display who you are without fear of being judged.
This will not happen in a day, or a week, or even a month. It will take time, you just have to keep persevering until you are finally there and feel good about yourself.
Start small with each of these things, wear a bracelet someone could comment on, sit in a restaurant by yourself, imagine yourself having a conversation with someone when you wake up.
Just keep doing these things, and eventually you will improve, until you are finally ready to face the world.
One last quick word. Be patient in the process. Use affirmations as much as you can if you’re feeling really shy and quiet Sundays. Go ahead and write out the following and read it as often as possible with feeling.
“I am an extrovert, and I love socializing and being a ball of energy”
Read this over and over and over again if you can out loud. By doing this through repetition for 30 to 90 days as often as you can throughout the day, you will reprogram your subconscious to believe it.
That is how you replace subconscious programs. It is through constant spaced repetition with feeling. Feel free to write out your own affirmation that vibes with you.
Just make sure that as you read it out loud that you do it with feeling and joy because your subconscious only responds to feelings.
Try to read the affirmation out loud in the mirror for five minutes in the morning and five minutes out loud in bed right before going to sleep.
Trust me on this it works exceptionally well. Like I said earlier give it a minimum of 30 days and watch how your personality changes. What have you done to stop being shy and quiet? Leave your comments below.